You're down and out, and that's okay. You're going through a huge transitional phase and it's going to be a journey, to say the least.
Don't listen to anyone who tells you not to cry or be sad. You need to feel these emotions and really unleash them. Cry until your eyes are swollen, scream until your voice is completely gone. The best thing that you can do is to feel these emotions as intensely as they come. Masking them will only delay the healing process.
Take every emotion with a grain of salt. It sucks in the moment but it is so necessary for you to grow past this. None of this is permanent. You're in a temporary state of confusion, loss, fear and overall bleh. Your mind will try to trick you into believing that you can't do this. It will tell you to run back into routine and settle into comfort. Do not listen. It's hard and you'll have moments of slipping up, but stay strong.
If you do slip up, let it happen. Ride the waves of emotion and let it be. Don't judge yourself or bully yourself. You are human. You're dealing with this the best way that you know how. It's okay to slip up and find comfort in the same old routine from time to time. Know that, although this is not healthy, you're doing what you need to do to make yourself feel happy in a time of vulnerability. These feelings will disappear and you'll find strength in time.
It's important to understand that this did not happen to you. This happened for you; for you to escape whatever it was that was no longer serving you. This is a blessing in disguise. A way for you to move forward in your life and discover exactly who it is that you are now.
This did not happen to you.
Look at this new journey as a time for you to focus on you. Who are you? What do you want out of life? Use this heartbreak as motivation to move forward and become your ultimate self. No one can destroy you, unless you let them.
You are an incredible, unique and powerful goddess. You just have to believe in yourself and all that you are capable of. When you love yourself and have faith in yourself, amazing things will happen. Growth and happiness will come flooding into your life. You'll feel better. Happier. Comfortable in this new life.
It takes time, patience, faith and a whole lot of feeling. But it is worth it. You will come out of this and feel like the most powerful woman in the world. You can and will get through this. Take your time and feel the journey. Don't find fault in your slip ups. Find power in them, instead. Know that you are such a powerful being.
When you're feeling at your worst, ask yourself why you're feeling the way that you are. Try to discover the root of the problem. Are you feeling rejected? Surround yourself with people who care. Are you feeling worthless? Focus on some serious self-love and remind yourself how awesome you are. There's so many things you can do to fix these short-term problems.
While it's so important to feel these less-than-ideal emotions, it's equally as important to understand how you can grow from them. After all, you don't want to be stuck feeling this way forever.
If you spend too much time living in the funk, it may prevent you from being happy long term. Give yourself as much time as you need to feel the negative, but try and discover how you can grow from it while you're in the process.
Most of the time, healing will come naturally. Letting the emotions come and go will allow your brain to feel more clear and give you the strength you need to move on. You need to be able to recognize when the healing period is up and you're slipping into a depression.
If this is something you feel as though you cannot handle on your own and you think you would benefit from a little more help, seek it. There is nothing wrong with asking for help or a push when you need it. Don't be ashamed. Therapists and life coaches are here to help you. They can give you the encouragement you need if you're just not finding it on your own.
Talk it out when need be. Keep to yourself when that feels right. Whatever way you handle things, just remind yourself - you can do this.
How did you break through the heartbreak funk? Share your thoughts and ideas below! You never know when your thought process can help heal someone who is dealing with similar pain in this moment.