Deciding Your Own Path

There are a lot of people in this world who choose to use their past as a handicap for their future. They let events that have occurred in their lifetime, determine who they will become for their entire lives. 

That is exactly what this quote stands against in this week's segment of Motivational Monday. 

"I am not what happened to me, I am what I choose to become." - C.G. Jung

"I am not what happened to me, I am what I choose to become." - C.G. Jung

C.G. Jung was a Swiss psychiatrist and psychotherapist. He deeply enjoyed studying both the conscious and unconscious mind of human beings. He believed that joining these two through individuation was what kept a person whole and sane. 

To me, this quote should be one of the first things we all say to ourselves when we wake up in the morning. No matter what has happened in our lives, we need to continue to grow into bigger and better people. 

I have some people very close to me that insist their lives are the way they are because of what happened to them as children. Personally, I can not stand that excuse. Your past does not define you. All the negativity from my past has fueled me and made me so much stronger than I ever was. It deeply saddens me when someone is so unhappy with their present because of things that happened years ago.

I refuse to be defined by the negativity of my past. I am who I am today because of what I learned along the way. Never let what happened to you drag you down or create a negative impact on your life. Use it to grow, use it as strength. We can all choose who we want to be and where we want to be. Nothing and no one can determine that. 

If you are letting your past stop you from achieving something you have always wanted, it's time to change that. You can get where you want to be and you will, if you quit letting obstacles get in your way. I have faith in everyone out there to become the best they can be!

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Choosing the Right Words

Although I am not very familiar with the background of the person who's quote I am choosing this week, her words really pertained to my current situation. 

This weeks quote comes from Jodi Picoult, an American author who has written 23 best selling novels in her 48 years of life. Ironically enough, this wonder woman actually wrote 5 issues of DC Comics' Wonder Woman in 2007. With all of these amazing accomplishments under her belt, it's no wonder that eventually one of her quotes would find it's way into my life. 

Words are like eggs dropped from great heights;  you can no more call them back than ignore the mess they leave when they fall.

Words are like eggs dropped from great heights; 
you can no more call them back than ignore the mess they leave when they fall.

I try my hardest to bestow positive vibes and words. But, like many of you, sometimes my lack of virtuous thoughts gets the better of me. What allows me to not be hard on myself when I have these thoughts, is how I choose to handle them. 

It is very honorable, in my opinion, when someone can think these negative things but will never allow the words to be forcefully put on the person in mind. When thoughts get turned into words, a person's life can be very much impacted. I am not saying people should never speak what's on their mind, I just think theres a time, place and situation when it is helpful. 

As much as I hate to say this, I almost prefer people to talk behind my back now and say their negative things about me to other people. I really don't want one persons negative words to ruin my whole day completely.

For example, if you are entertaining a thought that you think can truly benefit a person if it is spoken - do it. But if there is a thought that you know may potentially hurt or offend someone, it may be better to hold it inside. Jokes and fun aside, if it is criticism that is no where near constructive why would you want to purposely harm someone? 

Like this quote says, once words have left your lips there is nothing you can do to take them back. The words and the mess that they can create are in the world forever. Some people are more sensitive to words than others. I, for example, take what people say very personal. I can take criticism extremely well, but when I hear a hint of discourtesy in your voice I will absolutely get offended. 

I can linger on what someone tells me for days. I will analyze everything about what was said. I'm not a weak person but I am emotional. I don't like feeling like I am inferior to anyone. Like I said last Monday, I am a firm believer in equal rights among everyone. 

With that being said, let's try to inject positive words into this world. Positive thoughts lead to positive actions. If you want to think negatively, then leave it in your head. Don't disturb someone else's peace of mind with your adverse words. The emotional mess is not worth it. 

Happy Monday!

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