Generally speaking, there are two types of people in this world: those who go with the flow and those who like a routine. It's pretty rare to find someone who mixes the two.
Growing up I was always on a routine. I appreciated my routine - it made my life so much easier. As I became an adult, I realized how much my routine hindered me. I didn't have just a normal routine that could vary a little day-by-day. I had everything scheduled to the hour. Every hour in my day had an assignment and if things didn't go as planned I would get anxiety.
Last year, I had a mini mental breakdown when almost everything (literally) stopped going the way it was planned. A breakup led to a breakdown and suddenly my plan that felt so comforting was now completely tossed in the air. I had no idea what was going to happen, who I was going to surround myself with, what the next five years of my life would look like.
It's very common for situations like these to make you have major life epiphanies. These events are something to be grateful for. Do not fear them! They're happening so that life can teach you a major lesson. Surrender to flow.
To go from a routine person to a go with the flow type of girl is no easy task - trust me! It took lots of therapy and more meditation than I knew I could handle to learn how to let go. When you've got your "whole life" planned and suddenly life's rug gets ripped from under you, you will definitely be left with a wave of undesirable emotions.
How to surrender.
Life is unpredictable. We have a lot less control than we actually think. We actually have a very minimal amount of control when it comes to our lives. Most of the time, we can't even control how we react to people.
When you start to put into perspective that life is happening, regardless of how you react, you'll become more likely to just let it happen. A lot of people who obsess over routines actually have a much deeper reason - they need control. A routine is a way for a Type A personality to feel like they have some control over their lives. You can temporarily dictate what each hour is for in a day, but what happens when you can't anymore? What happens when life throws you a curve ball that you didn't see coming and now you're feeling the anxiety of losing control?
You've got no choice but to flow.
It's not a bad thing. It's nothing to be afraid of. Flowing gives you the opportunity to stop with the stress and take life as it comes. Life isn't meant to be so serious and structured. When you let things happen and don't try to micro-manage, life gets that much better.
Surrendering to flow doesn't mean you have to give up your normal routine. Just find balance. Life is all about balancing and doing what works best for you. If you feel like a robot because you're so stuck in your daily routine, just let life happen a little. Let your grip on life's reigns get a little looser.
Flowing starts in your mind. Changing your mindset will affect your ability to drop the routine and flow. It happens naturally when you realize that control isn't everything and you have very little.
Things to consider when you're trying to surrender.
- You have very little control over your life.
- Life is happening, whether you try to stop it or just let it happen.
- Things will not always go according to the plan you have built up in your head.
When you grasp the thoughts above, flowing will happen so easily. If you really want to change the way you think and become a flow-er, you're going to need a lot of hard work, dedication and meditation. It won't be easy, but it will be worth it.
Our brains are more programmed into a routine than you would ever realize. This is part of the reason it is so hard to surrender. Your brain knows how it normally reacts to things. You don't even have to think to react. It all happens so fast. Retraining your brain to surrender to flow is probably the most difficult part of this process. You gravitate towards routine naturally. Your brain finds comfort in it.
You'll have to start analyzing your thought process for a while and start leading it towards a more flowy path. This will start to happen naturally over time. But this is why I said it takes dedication. It won't happen overnight. You're literally training your brain to think and react differently to life.
Meditation was key in my journey towards surrendering. It truly made the process so much easier.
Surrendering to flow is something that takes patience and persistence, but it will definitely give you a better quality of life. At some point, you won't even have to think to surrender and it will just come naturally. I promise!
When you let life happen instead of fighting it all of the time, you'll become a happier more well-rounded person. You'll be grateful for each day and will no longer be a slave to your daily routine.
What type of person are you? Do you surrender to flow or lay victim to routine? Let me know in the comments below!
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