Generally speaking, there are two types of people in this world. Those who share their emotions openly and those who try and mask them. Of course there's all kinds of mediums between, but that is the scale that we're working with here.
I can honestly say that I am one of the emotional people that I know. I thrive when I am able to share my emotions or my hurt with people around me. It gives me a great release and makes me feel as though a massive weight has been lifted off of my shoulders.
Unfortunately, I have also come in contact with a lot of people who want to mask their emotions. This is a hard combination to have! Because I need to release and share in order to feel better, conflict can often arise with the people around me who are not of the same personality type. Some of the people closest to me in my life feel better when their emotions are kept inside and not shared with others.
DISCLAIMER: I am not bashing people who are more reserved about sharing their concerns and emotions. Everything in this post is simply my thoughts on the process as a whole. Everyone is beautiful and uniqueness is an incredible thing, so please do not feel like you need to change yourself as a whole because of the contents of this post.
Why I feel that releasing emotions is key to happiness.
From what I have experienced in my life, people who hold their emotions in and do not express them in any way often end up being more unhappy over time. I've always been a firm believer that letting things out is the only way to move forward in a productive way.
For people, like myself, who are pretty open and emotional - this can be pretty easy! For the opposite side of the spectrum, I totally understand that this can be a struggle. It's very uncomfortable for you to put yourself out there and be vulnerable. This is nothing to be ashamed of.
But when you release the things that are bothering you or talk them out in a productive way, you will feel so much lighter. Your energy will feel more clear and you won't have this dark burden following you around that makes you want to hide.
It is okay to be vulnerable.
Most importantly when you're working towards releasing trapped emotion, you need to be honest with yourself. Do not try to lie to yourself any longer. If something hurt you, admit it! Embrace it. Learn from it.
Brushing things under this imaginary rug is a temporary fix. One that does not serve you in a positive way. When I first started my journey towards a better life, vulnerability was hard! I've always been able to spew words out when something is bothering me, but whenever someone challenges my feelings or makes me feel like I'm crazy - I would back down! I would then let my inner dialogue take over and convince myself that what that person was doing wasn't actually hurting me and I was simply overreacting. My fault!
It wasn't until years into this process that I really stood firm in my beliefs. Do I overreact? Of course. Do I mask my feelings anymore when someone else feels like I overreact? Nope.
I am justified in my thoughts and I deserve to have my own opinions. And so do you, friend!
You should never be afraid of sharing your thoughts and concerns. You deserve to share how you're feeling and you deserve to be heard. And, you'll feel SO much better when you get those thoughts into the universe and out of your head!
What do I do if the other person is not receptive to my concerns?
This is a loaded question.
This is where intuition comes in. If this person means a lot to you and you aren't going to remove them from your life, then you just need to learn that this person is not vibrating at the same frequency that you are. You may not be able to come to them with every concern you have. And that may be a whole other conversation to have with this person!
If the person you're voicing concerns to isn't supporting your right to speak your truth AND they're not a key, important figure in your life - walk away, don't look back. You are not responsible for the way other people react to you. You are your own person and need to be comfortable in that.
Speaking your truth isn't always going to go over well. You don't ever want it to come from a place of aggression. Always speak from a place of love and genuine concern. Less arguments will stem from this approach.
How is this going to make me feel better?
When you hold too many things in for too long you get overwhelmed. You clog your energy with all of these negative vibes that are screaming to be released!
A lot of this post was geared towards handling situations with other people, but sometimes we just get in a funk. For no good reason. This is okay. These emotions are still here for a reason and need to be dealt with accordingly. I wrote a post about getting to the root of your emotions, which you can find here. Read this the next time you're in a funk and try and figure out where it is stemming from.
Sometimes I just cry. Literally for no other reason other than it feels right in that moment. That doesn't mean I'm depressed or in a bad place, I just have hit my emotional threshold and need to release!
If you want to cry - cry your eyes out. If you want to scream - scream! Let the unideal emotions out so that you can move forward with a body full of love and happiness.
You deserve to be happy in everything that you do. Releasing your emotions will get you there.
As promised above, I have created a new FREE printable for you to download. This worksheet is designed for you to release those emotions that are no longer serving you. Get them out already!
This is for those of you who are dealing with someone who is not receptive to your truth OR maybe you just don't feel as though you can be vulnerable like that at this time. Whatever your reasoning is, please take advantage of this free worksheet that I have created for you. It really will help your mental clarity.
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