From the time we are young, we learn to react to things strictly out of habit. When something happens, you don't have to think about how you feel - it comes pretty natural! What if you're not vibing with the way that you handle things anymore and feel like you're ready for a change of pace?
For example, someone does something to upset you. Your initial reaction is to lash out at them and tell them all of the other things they do that bug the crap out of you. Later in the day, you start to feel like shit because you just made someone else feel like shit! Now you're ready to change the way you react so that you can feel more at peace with yourself and with others.
But how do you change something that has had literal years to manifest in your brain?
It takes work.
Weird, right? You actually have to work to make an adjustment to yourself.
Here are my 4 tips to controlling and redirecting the way that your emotions lead you.
Acknowledge your feelings.
It's time to start recognizing when you're behaving in a way that you no longer wish to. When you recognize and come to terms with these emotions, it becomes a hell of a lot easier to do something about them.
The problem is, sometimes we don't even realize that we're acting a certain way! This is when your attention to detail skills need to come in to play. It may take some time, but really pay attention to the way that you react to people and the way that they react in return.
Sometimes it may even be nice to have an accountability partner. Someone who can call you out on your crap. Just be sure to not bite their heads off when they're being up front and honest with you about your reactions.
Mind over matter.
You need to be stronger than your subconscious and your ego here. Whenever you feel a little negativity brewing, you need to be able to nip it in the bud before it ever comes to fruition. Think that shit away - far, far away!
Your mind is an incredibly powerful tool, so use it to your advantage here!
Your brain has had years and years of reacting this particular way to scenarios that you don't like. So it isn't going to happen without a lot of hard work and calling your ego out on its crap!
Create new habits.
This one goes hand in hand with mind over matter. Like I said before, your brain has had years of conditioning. It's second nature to react the way that you've been reacting.
Now it's time to drop it like a bad habit and start forming some newer, healthier habits! This isn't easy and requires you to really utilize all of the key points that I'm mentioning in this post.
Catching yourself in the middle of the habit, acknowledging that it's there and redirecting it into a healthier habit is going to be your key to success in this journey.
Practice. Be gentle. Try again.
You're going to mess up.
There, I said it! No one is perfect and everyone makes mistakes or falls back on their journeys a little bit.
THAT IS OKAY.
You do not need to feel ashamed or embarrassed. You're doing the best that you can and that is truly admirable. When you fall off the horse, you get back on and learn from it. Gain more confidence and a stronger sense of achievement.
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