The part of the mind that mediates between the conscious and the unconscious and is responsible for reality testing and a sense of personal identity.
The ego can be a dangerous thing that works against our journey towards becoming our happiest selves. Most people relate ego to being conceited or narcissistic. While this can definitely have a relation, we all have an ego.
Our ego is the voice behind the internal struggle between conscious and subconscious. The voice that tries to kick us when we're down or turn us back to unhealthy, unideal patterns. It's the pest that withstands all extermination attempts.
Your ego questions every decision you make and will try to convince you it's the wrong one. The pest likes it when you stick to your comfortable, safe place and don't venture off into growing as an individual. When you're doubting yourself, ego is in full effect.
What is deep rooted in your subconscious mind from years of "training" from your parents and society, is protected by an armed ego that is prepared to fight when you start to morph your thoughts into a new, better pattern.
The pest can be strong enough to hold you back and prevent you from living the life that you're dreaming of. It will convince you that reality is what you're living and that it is impossible to live any way beyond what you're currently experiencing.
Another way ego plays games with your mind is by allowing the opinions and negativity of others to taint your thought process. It convinces you that what others think of you is your reality and it must be the truth. Do not give in. You create your own reality. Your opinion of yourself and the life you're living is the only one that matters.
Ego shows itself in many ways. The most common form is jealousy. The pest makes you feel like you are less than or unworthy of what other people around you have. It makes you envious and angry. "Why can't you have these things? Or look like that?"
This is crippling to your growth.
It's very important to be happy for other people. Support brings positivity into our own lives. Jealousy leads to nothing but more negativity. Tell ego to shove it and start working towards what you want. You must earn the things that you admire. Hard work and dedication are always the answers.
Support those around you and say nice things. A positive external dialogue is just as important as a healthy, uplifting internal dialogue.
Ego says: "Why don't I have that? This isn't fair."
Soul says: "How can I create my own?"
Kicking the ego out.
Unfortunately, ego will always be a factor in your life. There's always going to be a little voice inside of your head that tries to kick you down.
What you can control, however, is quieting your ego. Put a tiny muzzle on it and continue creating the life that you've been dreaming of. You can train your brain to not listen to ego so closely and start morphing your subconscious brain to think in an entirely new way.
This takes a lot of time, patience and practice - but if worked at consistently, you will be able to kick your ego to the curb and gain control of your life.
Well, are you gonna tell me how? YES, patience!
In order to gain control of your ego, you need to gain control of your thoughts. Your inner dialogue needs to become impenetrable to your little pest. Every time you feel doubt or negativity, you need to be able to identify it. Catch it before it gets too deep rooted into your brain. You cannot let ego have control of your thoughts any longer. The pest is holding you back.
The sooner you can recognize when old thoughts patterns are coming into play, the quicker you can learn to turn them around. Tell yourself that you are improving each and every day and that you don't hold space for the unhealthy thoughts anymore. You are on a new journey. One without fear or judgement. You are strong. You are powerful. You can do this.
You inner dialogue should be filled with compliments and encouragement. Not negativity and insults.
Until this habit becomes rooted into your subconscious, it will be tough. It's not easy to change the way that you were trained to think. But it is possible. I'm still working at it every single day! But it does get easier and it is worth the retraining of the brain.
Doesn't it sound awesome to have nothing but nice thoughts bouncing through your brain? Instead of a pest that is constantly putting you down and making you doubt yourself and your worth?
You deserve to speak kindly to yourself, so try it sometime!
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