As someone who has dealt with anxiety their whole life, I can tell you first hand what an absolute horrible affect it has on your life. In 2018 I suffered from the worst anxiety that I have ever dealt with. I couldn’t even leave my home without a full mental breakdown right before. Somedays I literally was not able to leave home.
I played around with so many things to see what was triggering me and keeping me in such a weird headspace. With the help of an intuitive guide, we finally figured out some serious triggers for those anxious days.
So let’s get into what I’ve learned.
Your mindset is everything when you’re someone who has to deal with anxiety (or any mental illness, really). If you don’t have a strong foundation to fall back on when you’re starting to feel anxious, your chances of bouncing back quickly are a lot slimmer.
Mindset is something that takes time to figure out. Picture it as the foundation of your home. You can trust that your house will not fall randomly into a million little pieces because it has wood, cement and other insanely strong materials to hold it up right even through the harsh times. The same concept needs to apply to your core mindset.
You should have strong thoughts and affirmations to remember when you start feeling a little anxious. This will ensure that you can bounce back and talk yourself down from these chaotic times.
If a negative bundle of thoughts starts pouring into your head, remember your core strength and positivity.
If you need some help building a powerful set of affirmations, check out this post here.
Your time on social media.
Social media can be an amazing thing. I genuinely enjoy scrolling through Instagram to see what all of the amazing people I follow are doing. The only problem is, this can often lead to comparison. Comparison, as many of my fellow anxiety sufferers know, is a key component in a lot of mental health issues.
When we spend too much time on social media or aren’t following the right people, we get caught in this sick cycle of beating ourselves down for not having what these other people do. If there is one thing I could put on a billboard in the middle of the busiest streets of every city in the world, it would be that not everything you see on social media is real.
Every single person on this planet faces demons and goes through rough times. They don’t share that on socials because that isn’t what gets likes, comments and views. You have to remember that the lives you see lived on social media aren’t all they’re cracked up to be.
You are at a completely different time in your journey, so don’t compare it to anyone else’s. Your journey is yours to complete at your own pace with your own successes.
Doing a social media detox can be a great way to shake off some excess anxiety. I went balls to the wall and even deleted my account! You don’t have to commit that hard though. It’s your journey!
You’re consuming negativity.
This is another huge one for anyone that suffers anxiety - but there’s also a couple parts to it.
The first part that I really want to touch on is consuming the negativity that comes on the news stations or radio stations. In my opinion, a lot of what is shared on the news is a scare tactic so I’ve always steered away from any of those channels. Many people love the news and want to be informed, though.
If you are suffering from really bad anxiety, I can promise you that watching the news or listening to it on the radio is an awful idea. It is full of triggers and is geared towards a negative way of thinking - because that is what interests people. Opposite of social media, the news is meant to share mainly negativity with little puffs of positive stories. People wouldn’t be as likely to tune in if the whole hour of each news show was spent talking about happy, uplifting stories. That’s just the way it is!
The second part of the consumption of negativity that I want to touch on, is taking on the energy of the negative people around you. We all have those coworkers or family members, even, that are just negative. They don’t throw out good vibes and they are really bad for our mindset. Now is the time to get seriously in tune with your foundation and work on blocking these people out.
Sometimes it is best to separate yourself from these people completely, but I totally understand that isn’t realistic. I work in a place with quite a few negative people. The best way that I got through this was talking less (unless it was about uplifting things) and listening to podcasts / audiobooks more. This severely helped me get through the dark times and was a great way for me to escape mentally when I couldn’t physically.
The bottom line is to know yourself well enough to discover what triggers you and what makes you feel any bit better. Anxiety is such a shitty thing to deal with and I honestly feel for anyone suffering from it. You don’t have to suffer. You will get through it always. Working on you and what your life is about is the quickest way to get out of your own head.